It's becoming quite important to feel clean to feel sexy...And it gets harder and harder to feel clean when priorities are to feed, clean and clothe three dependents and the house before doing all that to me. So when I act cold, it means that I'm not feeling cleanly sexy, not that he's unattractive..saying that reminds me, I'm hungry(but I must cook before I eat), I'm dirty(but I first need to clean house before I bathe, I've only cleaned the bird-shitty porches) and before I bathe I have to make papaya-honey scrub for my allergy, and cook dinner..and pasta for tea. So until all that finishes, I'm unlikely to feel sexy...